(The following is a continuation of my views on msn.com’s story on “10 Big Mistakes Parents Make”.)
7) Setting unreal expectations: After hearing my expectations (of keeping her room clean, telling the truth, coming home on time, etc) my daughter would sometimes question me, “Do you expect me to be perfect? I’m not perfect you know!”. My Wesleyan words came forth about striving for Christian perfection verses being perfect little robots. We are to “aim for perfection” (2 Cor 13:11), and to “press on” (Phil 3:12) in our imperfection. Regarding #7 on the list from msn, dreams of our children are important, but perhaps backing up to set expectations of following biblical principles and moral behavior should be a priority. If parents and children are moving together in that journey (for the most part) then helping your child reach their dreams (and not necessarily yours) is a joy.
Take a moment to consider your relationship with your Father in heaven, with you as His child, and then your relationship (as a parent) with your own beloved children. (Watch for the rest of this list to be updated daily.)
7) Setting unreal expectations: After hearing my expectations (of keeping her room clean, telling the truth, coming home on time, etc) my daughter would sometimes question me, “Do you expect me to be perfect? I’m not perfect you know!”. My Wesleyan words came forth about striving for Christian perfection verses being perfect little robots. We are to “aim for perfection” (2 Cor 13:11), and to “press on” (Phil 3:12) in our imperfection. Regarding #7 on the list from msn, dreams of our children are important, but perhaps backing up to set expectations of following biblical principles and moral behavior should be a priority. If parents and children are moving together in that journey (for the most part) then helping your child reach their dreams (and not necessarily yours) is a joy.
Take a moment to consider your relationship with your Father in heaven, with you as His child, and then your relationship (as a parent) with your own beloved children. (Watch for the rest of this list to be updated daily.)
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